Making it approachable (things to avoid mentioning)
It’s all about the vibe you send out there! Diva? Pass! Attitude? No thanks! Drama? Got plenty! Don’t send guys away by creating a profile with attitude. You may think it sounds like a strong approach, but trust us, it’s not, it’s just like a bad scenario! Instead, tone it down with funny remarks, a joke or two, always imagine what the readers’ reaction will be when looking through your profile, if you see a smile, then it’s a bingo, no? Then dig to something sensitive. Many guys write the things they want and don’t want in guys, I could swear it sounds like a delivery order! Instead of ordering Plate’ toujour, avoid writing your profile as if it’s a menu in a restaurant; instead of closing up to certain types or rules, open up to meet different kinds of people, the nerd, the hunk… you never know what you might end up liking. Always go for a simpler approach, gays could appear as complicated, so the less complex you appear, the hotter you are, after all, who doesn’t want to hang out with a laid back Nancy! “Many guys talk about what they’re not into, or what they’re not looking for rather than focusing on the positive side of online dating.” Simon says.
Avoid showing off, people will be repulsed by that sense no matter how cute you are. “It’s a little like all those cosmetic adverts you see on television claiming wrinkles will disappear overnight. So claims like ‘I’m great in bed’ or ‘I’ve got a massive c*ck’ are quite subjective” says Simon. Instead, show your humble side, a cute guy with humble eyes is always a charmer.
Something to note, don’t appear as perfect! We suffer enough from picture perfect models with long tanned legs up to their necks and white teeth, helping the elderly and looking sexy! You know what I mean! When setting a perfect image, it could put you under a pressure to not be yourself, compare yourself to other perfect images you claimed in the first beginning or even failing to portray your words! Instead, why not show your clumsy side, your inner funny freak! You appeal more to guys when you’re yourself and naturally acting than faking something. “Guys with picture perfect profiles are a bit over the top, add some candid shots to your profile, you’ll come across as being more approachable and much more likeable – without the ego!” Says Simon
Tip: You can create an outstanding profile by playing with the color scheme of your page, go for neutral colors like grey, or exotic like red, those are stuff that plays up the mood which is a plus point.
It’s all about the vibe you send out there! Diva? Pass! Attitude? No thanks! Drama? Got plenty! Don’t send guys away by creating a profile with attitude. You may think it sounds like a strong approach, but trust us, it’s not, it’s just like a bad scenario! Instead, tone it down with funny remarks, a joke or two, always imagine what the readers’ reaction will be when looking through your profile, if you see a smile, then it’s a bingo, no? Then dig to something sensitive. Many guys write the things they want and don’t want in guys, I could swear it sounds like a delivery order! Instead of ordering Plate’ toujour, avoid writing your profile as if it’s a menu in a restaurant; instead of closing up to certain types or rules, open up to meet different kinds of people, the nerd, the hunk… you never know what you might end up liking. Always go for a simpler approach, gays could appear as complicated, so the less complex you appear, the hotter you are, after all, who doesn’t want to hang out with a laid back Nancy! “Many guys talk about what they’re not into, or what they’re not looking for rather than focusing on the positive side of online dating.” Simon says.
Avoid showing off, people will be repulsed by that sense no matter how cute you are. “It’s a little like all those cosmetic adverts you see on television claiming wrinkles will disappear overnight. So claims like ‘I’m great in bed’ or ‘I’ve got a massive c*ck’ are quite subjective” says Simon. Instead, show your humble side, a cute guy with humble eyes is always a charmer.
Something to note, don’t appear as perfect! We suffer enough from picture perfect models with long tanned legs up to their necks and white teeth, helping the elderly and looking sexy! You know what I mean! When setting a perfect image, it could put you under a pressure to not be yourself, compare yourself to other perfect images you claimed in the first beginning or even failing to portray your words! Instead, why not show your clumsy side, your inner funny freak! You appeal more to guys when you’re yourself and naturally acting than faking something. “Guys with picture perfect profiles are a bit over the top, add some candid shots to your profile, you’ll come across as being more approachable and much more likeable – without the ego!” Says Simon
Tip: You can create an outstanding profile by playing with the color scheme of your page, go for neutral colors like grey, or exotic like red, those are stuff that plays up the mood which is a plus point.
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A private cut!
Many guys upload rated pictures of themselves, covering the eyes, or blanking the face, and sometimes it feels like checking up the ‘wanted’ chart! Understandable though, many guys do want to keep there discreet way of living intact. Protecting your identity from theft or so is an important matter, and you don’t want to upload a revealing picture of yourself and hiding the face, you’re giving others the green light to go ahead and objectify your body regardless what your face looks like! If you’re not comfortable with revealing your face to the public, you can note that you do send private photos when replying, and be sure that those private photos cannot be saved. “So remember, once you’ve uploaded a photo, it’s in the public domain no matter what dating or social networking site you’re using. With Gaydar you can upload private photos, for when you’re feeling extra brave and want to show your guy what you’ve got going on!” says Simon.
Mistakes to brush off!
- “Handing out personal information too quickly. Don’t be too quick to reveal your address or telephone number. When you are ready to talk on the phone use your mobile number as this can be easily changed.” Says Simon. Never reveal your debit or credit card details or offer to send money to people you meet online. These are almost certainly scams.
- You decide how you behave in the real world and online.
- Celebrity pictures! Why? Are you really Collin Farrell? When uploading celebrity shots, it appears as tacky! A guy who checks your profile expects to see pictures of yours, not someone else’s. Even though you’re R’ing them, it could be your body language or the activity your involved in that speaks up.
- Skipping on boxes! When writing in “About you” box and skipping the “Looking for” one, it shows the uneven treat! It could appear to others you’re not much of a compromiser! Don’t talk about yourself then ignore the other, or the other way around, that’s an interest-blower!
- You know when there’s a cute guy and he doesn’t know it? Hot right? Well it’s much less when you do know! When you describe yourself as cute it could appeal as turn off, not the opposite! So instead of writing it, act it in your pictures, and leave the rest to him. A confident smile, a picture from one of your recent traveling trips and so are much more interesting. Confidence is all there is.
- Using the word hate! Many guys write aggressive gestures in their profiles like "I hate Skinny girly boys..." or "I despite hairy chubby daddies!". Try not to use such harsh words like “hate” or “despise”, such words are strongly negative and it could affect the rest of your profile. This kind of act will gain you more haters than admirers, and remember you could be describing your best friend or someone you’re close to. Instead try using lesser sharp words like “I prefer not” or “I’m not attracted to…” that's much respectable and leaner.
Many guys upload rated pictures of themselves, covering the eyes, or blanking the face, and sometimes it feels like checking up the ‘wanted’ chart! Understandable though, many guys do want to keep there discreet way of living intact. Protecting your identity from theft or so is an important matter, and you don’t want to upload a revealing picture of yourself and hiding the face, you’re giving others the green light to go ahead and objectify your body regardless what your face looks like! If you’re not comfortable with revealing your face to the public, you can note that you do send private photos when replying, and be sure that those private photos cannot be saved. “So remember, once you’ve uploaded a photo, it’s in the public domain no matter what dating or social networking site you’re using. With Gaydar you can upload private photos, for when you’re feeling extra brave and want to show your guy what you’ve got going on!” says Simon.
Mistakes to brush off!
- “Handing out personal information too quickly. Don’t be too quick to reveal your address or telephone number. When you are ready to talk on the phone use your mobile number as this can be easily changed.” Says Simon. Never reveal your debit or credit card details or offer to send money to people you meet online. These are almost certainly scams.
- You decide how you behave in the real world and online.
- Celebrity pictures! Why? Are you really Collin Farrell? When uploading celebrity shots, it appears as tacky! A guy who checks your profile expects to see pictures of yours, not someone else’s. Even though you’re R’ing them, it could be your body language or the activity your involved in that speaks up.
- Skipping on boxes! When writing in “About you” box and skipping the “Looking for” one, it shows the uneven treat! It could appear to others you’re not much of a compromiser! Don’t talk about yourself then ignore the other, or the other way around, that’s an interest-blower!
- You know when there’s a cute guy and he doesn’t know it? Hot right? Well it’s much less when you do know! When you describe yourself as cute it could appeal as turn off, not the opposite! So instead of writing it, act it in your pictures, and leave the rest to him. A confident smile, a picture from one of your recent traveling trips and so are much more interesting. Confidence is all there is.
- Using the word hate! Many guys write aggressive gestures in their profiles like "I hate Skinny girly boys..." or "I despite hairy chubby daddies!". Try not to use such harsh words like “hate” or “despise”, such words are strongly negative and it could affect the rest of your profile. This kind of act will gain you more haters than admirers, and remember you could be describing your best friend or someone you’re close to. Instead try using lesser sharp words like “I prefer not” or “I’m not attracted to…” that's much respectable and leaner.