Another Lash-Wish!
Why are we still single?
Are you still sucking on those ring-pops on a bench somewhere day dreaming of 'the one'? Stuck in the woods, hunting? No catch yet? Have you tried a different corner, maybe a different weapon? And is it really the case of hunting or are we desperate these days for the perfect catch? That gazelle has escaped your grip just a ‘few’ times now. But now, after one long-yoga period, we’re ready to take a dive, but is the disturbance in the water has been keeping us mind-blinded to notice the ek? And being single isn’t a taboo, not anymore as we last checked, but yet, it’s a phase a lot want to get over with, out of, and what better to do that with knowing what have we been up to with ourselves that has and is keeping the potential ‘ones’ at bay, and what is keeping the potential ones at bay really? We sat with a bunch of relationship poolers who pointed out what kept them reluctant from having and forming a relationship. Care to get checked?
Hunting high & low...
You’ve been setting that bar too high for anyone to reach! We all build certain lists (standards) in our heads that describes the person who fits perfectly in our lives. That matches the person who we day dream about constantly! But what are the chances that you’ll bump into your day-dreamy person when you set the standard bar too high? He/she themselves won’t stand a chance! Also don’t set the bar too low for anyone to reach either, you should know what you like in the person you like to be dating and point it out, that will actually help you with your scan-searches. A reasonable standard that has real-balance will guarantee you availability
Dating all the wrong ones!
Have you been fishing in the wrong pool again? A lot of us tend not to know what suits them, we get miss-leaded by the wrong signs and we go along with them. We’re miss-leaded by pretty images… So why go along with the wrong ones when you can know and find the suitable ones. The miss fits are plenty but so are the suitable ones. We all need to find people who we are attracted to who are also attracted to us. You can never assume that someone is not going to be attracted to you just because you think you aren't attractive enough or muscular enough. Everyone has lots of different tastes. The issue is we tend to go after the pretty ones, and oh they’re everywhere, neglecting what’s important. You need to know what you need from the other person not what you want. Find common interests, good qualities… and you’ll be good to go, beauty is a plus only. And of course, and even more so, personality and who you are is going to be a far bigger issue in the long run for getting together with people. Physical attraction only takes you so far if you are looking for more than a momentary encounter.
Not verifying much?!
You’ve been typically-typical lately! Sticking to the one and run with it… People are attracted to more than one type, but a lot don’t even know it! “Everyone has different tastes, that don't necessarily reflect what they look like. I've known big guys into little guys, young guys into older guys, muscled guys into heavy guys… every permutation” One guy answers another on Yahoo answers. The common wisdom is probably that similar types are attracted to each other but there are certainly no rules. So don’t limit yourself when coming to dating different other guys from the typical ones you’re usually attracted to, cause eventually you’ll be limiting yourself from finding someone.
How unsocial & distant of you!
Have you cut the wires already? So you’ve left your wires unattainable, who hasn’t at some point? Spending weekend nights home or surround yourself by couch potato friends isn’t going to get you dates! You’ve skipped enough on the social events and the in-house parties for you to stick home. In able to actually find someone, you’ve got to be out their living life, meeting new people, making friends, see and be seen! You’re not living in a movie where you’ll find the guy while staying home! Being social is a quality that you need to learn to accentuate, it raises up your bar.
Too there! (you know what I mean?..)
You’ve been there too much. You hang out at all the usual places, you’re hanging with all the same people, and you party at all the same old places! You’re too there! Do they miss you yet? You’re not playing a little harder, feel like you’re not up for games? Why play from the beginning? When being accessible to everyone, you kill your mystique, a factor of attractiveness. So try different places, text those people you met at a house party a month ago… that way you’re pulling your card from one place and into another, giving different circles to know more of you. This will raise the chance of meeting new people who haven’t seen you ‘there’ yet!
Pride, ego and all the wrong Gag-pressions!
You’ve been holding that face too high now, maybe look straight forward for a change! No one likes a queen acting like a queen! Ego and pride are basics to collect, but not using them as a defense mechanism when it comes to meeting people! You want them to try harder? Then give slack for others to approach you without them predicting rejection! Also first impressions are important to pay attention for, many do set the wrong ones, who haven’t used lines like ”oh my friend is great, you just don’t know him yet, you’ll love him later…” Your egoistic mix might be setting the wrong impression, or is it just the way you wear your face?
Emotional baggage... Drop dread basket-case!
So you’re a basket case, overwhelmed with other feelings taking primary tasks at this point in your life. You’re dealing with excess emotions that are affecting your life at whole. Who can think of finding someone when you have this to keep your mind and heart occupied? Unsolved issues with your parents, family tragedy, recent breakup, friendships and dramas… the list could go on forever. You won’t be able to move on and have the ability and the capability of finding someone, because you’re unintentionally pushing everyone away, including those cuties, when you have this emotional baggage on your back. A given space is a must for you to overcome those time-tasking emotions.
Explosive schedules!
So your daily planner is about to explode. You lead a busy life, work is your spouse, family is a time-tasker, trips, studies and everything is becoming a drag. Your friends aren’t seeing much of you and you’ve been skipping those social events… So tip toeing around the idea of dating haven’t even crossed your mind! Time-off, social breaks, long weekends… all options that should be taken within consideration. Empty up your schedule on weekend time, and zone yourself out from the business mind of yours. Probably hang out with your best pals at a nice restaurant. Maybe ask them to invite their cute friends, meeting new people on a relaxing occasion, giving the chance for others to see you in a relaxed mode instead of being a business, major ‘turn-off’!
Mirror mirror on the wall, whose the self-conscious of them all?
How have you been feeling about yourself lately? Many don’t feel the confidence to approach others or to keep up with the others, or even hold a conversation. We tend to feel unsure of ourselves when a cute guy approaches us or asks us out. Not feeling enough… asking ourselves ‘he’s so cute, why is he looking my way?’ Maybe stop thinking so down on yourself! People see through each other, and it always shows, if you love yourself people will love you too, if you don’t, people will start to believe you. What you project on yourself, people will view! So change your attitude toward yourself and everything around will change. As Liana Chaouli once said “Feeling and looking great changes the way you show up in the world. When you look in the mirror and see someone exuding joy, confidence and self-acceptance, the world begins to see you in the same light.”
Lost lust & trust...
Cheaters! We can’t stop the blame! Having been in a relationship with a cheater may have caused this unconscious mechanism of deflecting others…, the fear of being hurt again, the vulnerability of the situation… which developed along the way and have sworn not to get back on that track again. Overcoming the past and putting all these trust-killer feelings aside, and start giving those who’ve been knocking on your door lately a chance, let them be the ones who’ll help you change that perspective on relationships…
Hunting high & low...
You’ve been setting that bar too high for anyone to reach! We all build certain lists (standards) in our heads that describes the person who fits perfectly in our lives. That matches the person who we day dream about constantly! But what are the chances that you’ll bump into your day-dreamy person when you set the standard bar too high? He/she themselves won’t stand a chance! Also don’t set the bar too low for anyone to reach either, you should know what you like in the person you like to be dating and point it out, that will actually help you with your scan-searches. A reasonable standard that has real-balance will guarantee you availability
Dating all the wrong ones!
Have you been fishing in the wrong pool again? A lot of us tend not to know what suits them, we get miss-leaded by the wrong signs and we go along with them. We’re miss-leaded by pretty images… So why go along with the wrong ones when you can know and find the suitable ones. The miss fits are plenty but so are the suitable ones. We all need to find people who we are attracted to who are also attracted to us. You can never assume that someone is not going to be attracted to you just because you think you aren't attractive enough or muscular enough. Everyone has lots of different tastes. The issue is we tend to go after the pretty ones, and oh they’re everywhere, neglecting what’s important. You need to know what you need from the other person not what you want. Find common interests, good qualities… and you’ll be good to go, beauty is a plus only. And of course, and even more so, personality and who you are is going to be a far bigger issue in the long run for getting together with people. Physical attraction only takes you so far if you are looking for more than a momentary encounter.
Not verifying much?!
You’ve been typically-typical lately! Sticking to the one and run with it… People are attracted to more than one type, but a lot don’t even know it! “Everyone has different tastes, that don't necessarily reflect what they look like. I've known big guys into little guys, young guys into older guys, muscled guys into heavy guys… every permutation” One guy answers another on Yahoo answers. The common wisdom is probably that similar types are attracted to each other but there are certainly no rules. So don’t limit yourself when coming to dating different other guys from the typical ones you’re usually attracted to, cause eventually you’ll be limiting yourself from finding someone.
How unsocial & distant of you!
Have you cut the wires already? So you’ve left your wires unattainable, who hasn’t at some point? Spending weekend nights home or surround yourself by couch potato friends isn’t going to get you dates! You’ve skipped enough on the social events and the in-house parties for you to stick home. In able to actually find someone, you’ve got to be out their living life, meeting new people, making friends, see and be seen! You’re not living in a movie where you’ll find the guy while staying home! Being social is a quality that you need to learn to accentuate, it raises up your bar.
Too there! (you know what I mean?..)
You’ve been there too much. You hang out at all the usual places, you’re hanging with all the same people, and you party at all the same old places! You’re too there! Do they miss you yet? You’re not playing a little harder, feel like you’re not up for games? Why play from the beginning? When being accessible to everyone, you kill your mystique, a factor of attractiveness. So try different places, text those people you met at a house party a month ago… that way you’re pulling your card from one place and into another, giving different circles to know more of you. This will raise the chance of meeting new people who haven’t seen you ‘there’ yet!
Pride, ego and all the wrong Gag-pressions!
You’ve been holding that face too high now, maybe look straight forward for a change! No one likes a queen acting like a queen! Ego and pride are basics to collect, but not using them as a defense mechanism when it comes to meeting people! You want them to try harder? Then give slack for others to approach you without them predicting rejection! Also first impressions are important to pay attention for, many do set the wrong ones, who haven’t used lines like ”oh my friend is great, you just don’t know him yet, you’ll love him later…” Your egoistic mix might be setting the wrong impression, or is it just the way you wear your face?
Emotional baggage... Drop dread basket-case!
So you’re a basket case, overwhelmed with other feelings taking primary tasks at this point in your life. You’re dealing with excess emotions that are affecting your life at whole. Who can think of finding someone when you have this to keep your mind and heart occupied? Unsolved issues with your parents, family tragedy, recent breakup, friendships and dramas… the list could go on forever. You won’t be able to move on and have the ability and the capability of finding someone, because you’re unintentionally pushing everyone away, including those cuties, when you have this emotional baggage on your back. A given space is a must for you to overcome those time-tasking emotions.
Explosive schedules!
So your daily planner is about to explode. You lead a busy life, work is your spouse, family is a time-tasker, trips, studies and everything is becoming a drag. Your friends aren’t seeing much of you and you’ve been skipping those social events… So tip toeing around the idea of dating haven’t even crossed your mind! Time-off, social breaks, long weekends… all options that should be taken within consideration. Empty up your schedule on weekend time, and zone yourself out from the business mind of yours. Probably hang out with your best pals at a nice restaurant. Maybe ask them to invite their cute friends, meeting new people on a relaxing occasion, giving the chance for others to see you in a relaxed mode instead of being a business, major ‘turn-off’!
Mirror mirror on the wall, whose the self-conscious of them all?
How have you been feeling about yourself lately? Many don’t feel the confidence to approach others or to keep up with the others, or even hold a conversation. We tend to feel unsure of ourselves when a cute guy approaches us or asks us out. Not feeling enough… asking ourselves ‘he’s so cute, why is he looking my way?’ Maybe stop thinking so down on yourself! People see through each other, and it always shows, if you love yourself people will love you too, if you don’t, people will start to believe you. What you project on yourself, people will view! So change your attitude toward yourself and everything around will change. As Liana Chaouli once said “Feeling and looking great changes the way you show up in the world. When you look in the mirror and see someone exuding joy, confidence and self-acceptance, the world begins to see you in the same light.”
Lost lust & trust...
Cheaters! We can’t stop the blame! Having been in a relationship with a cheater may have caused this unconscious mechanism of deflecting others…, the fear of being hurt again, the vulnerability of the situation… which developed along the way and have sworn not to get back on that track again. Overcoming the past and putting all these trust-killer feelings aside, and start giving those who’ve been knocking on your door lately a chance, let them be the ones who’ll help you change that perspective on relationships…