Caught In A Web?
Welcome To Dead Lovers'
For the very First Time...Team work
By: MJ Rahahleh & Max Jamie
Falling in love comes in steps, slow but obvious. It can be mixed up with infatuation. One cannot tell the difference between two of them until time has passed by. Infatuation is a delusion, a hologram of what one wants embodied in the wrong person. It's the non existing security that you create to fill the emptiness, to avoid being alone and being the third wheel. Infatuation has the same symptoms as love i.e.: sleepless nights, absent mind, day dreaming, and the false hope of lasting forever after.
Another type of delusions is one-sided love. It's a lie. A lie created
by a fragile insecure mind again to avoid being alone, but the
difference between one-sided love and infatuation is that infatuation is usually mutual. On the other hand, one-sided love is a feeling without sharing, the fear of letting out your inner thoughts, because you fear rejection and abandonment. A person would have strong feelings for you without you ever noticing or vise versa. And when the pain doubles -if you're the one who is feeling the one-sided love-,the feint of ever lasting love carved in your brain, never and will never wear off because of the feeling that you have found "the one" and you don't have to look anymore.
All of what was said above might draw a negative image of Love in your head, but when a door is closed, a window is opened somewhere. Some of us have had the privilege of falling in love, while the most or some haven't (yet).
How can you tell if you're in love?
Mostly, the signs are similar to those ones in an infatuation, but the fog clears out after a couple of weeks into the relationship, and yet again reality prevails. It starts with a look, a smile, and then a casual “hi” that gives you the sweet feeling in your chest. After a couple of meetings you feel the “spark”, you feel that this is the person that you always dreamt of. The person starts to paint up a pretty image in your head, and the feeling of security and butterflies in your tummy.
When it goes into the 'serious' phase, that feeling becomes stronger. The person invades your thoughts and you feel their presence when they're away. You start seeing pink puppies floating around in clouds, and the smell of fresh laundry in everything around you, you feel like you unveiled the puzzle of your existence. You don't feel useless anymore, nor abandoned. You feel empowered by their strength when you're weak.
What’s going on in the lovers’ minds?
"What are you doing? Who are you talking to? What color are you
wearing? Are you feeling good? Do you miss me? I'm jealous of the air you breathe; I want to take all your pain away", impact of thoughts in the mind of a lovelorn person.
Editor’s Note: This is some how a controversial article! The Image reflects the word and the title totally doesn’t, like Madonna’s 85’ video on “material girl”! Love is different for and to everyone, unpredictable and includes a spacious thoughtful field. So don’t build the image based on this article. It’s always up to you, and we’re here to help. So this creative article reflects a different view on love that might catch your interest.