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this article is sutable for lesbians too, just make sure to switch (him,his, he) to (she, her...)
It already happened! The moment you've always dreamed of, the moment were your lips shivers! You're probably on the nicest walk, or the moment after dirty dancing in a club, your eyes meet and bam before it hits you, you feel unprepared, not ready and not sure what to do, the shyness is the best thing of it all, but confidence is what really counts, it’s your main key, however he could also give you confidence with his approach. People rush into sex more than rabbits do in mating season! WHY?! Don’t they know kissing is the best part? Kissing is about encaging a mutual touch of lips, showing passion and having your feelings running though your veins instead of your brains! Its when the whole world freezes it's time for you two to melt in the seconds with every lip-touch, with every kiss. It’s a totally heated feeling of being captured under someone’s kiss. Never rush this feeling. And you know the top secret to a best kiss is, focusing on the kiss! Many people don’t focus on the kiss, some worry if a zit had popped, others about how their breath smells, that just won't work. Focusing on the lips, on the moment and memorizing every second of it will make the kiss more about giving and taking, leading to an in-heated moment. Kissing is a team work, it’s never about you, it’s about both of you, it’s about giving and receiving. So make this part of yours flawless to score A+ on your next kissing check-up! So start ticking these:
Your eye meets his: it all starts with eye contact. If you feel shy, it doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing, while in fact giving shy looks will make your partner less nervous approaching you, and making the scene innocent as it is, if you’re confident to take the lead then don’t hesitate, cause he won’t either. Make sure to make eye contact, study his eyes, from his eyes’ color to his eye brows, lashes. Then move your eyes slowly to his nose, then to his lips, and focus on them, and here the story begins. (the eye contact is good for a deep connection, leading to a more intense kiss, and this eye move to lips is good for you to be ready, also to give him a hint your going in, or for him to lean in.)
Your lips meet his: You could start with a tease, not a strong one though, try brushing your lips against his while being gentle with the whole thing, which makes the approach more emotional, and more WANTED! Starting slow and gentle is a perfect approach to a perfect kiss; remember not rushing and not fastening your way into a kiss. Start it slow.
The kiss (1): After brushing your lips against his, kiss his lips very gently, giving you the power of the kiss, and making him longing for another. After few kisses (pecks) on the lips, start using your tongues, going a little deeper with it, remembering to use slow movements and a gentle attitude. (p.s. eyes closed, it starts when you lean for the kiss after you looked at his lips).
Your hand guide: while kissing put your hands on his, and go further to his arms then to bicep making a gentle grip. Also run your hands on his back, his neck and his lower hair. But the most powerful spot your hands could touch is his lower back, that area is very effective on having a more intense kiss and making the situation more stimulating. Remember that area is flammable! Use it at emergencies! (However, during kissing, try to avoid groping, or grabbing his butt, it’s a too fast ((as a move)), and it could ruin the innocent moment of the kiss and missleads. And don’t run your hands every where! That will make both of you less focused on the kiss).
The pull-off: Stop kissing, move your face away, to look at his visage, study his face, run your eyes over his face, focus on his cheeks, nose, chin, and then hold an eye contact, run your fingers between his hair, and you could tuck it behind his ear. Watch his reaction, if he smiled, or breathed deeply, had Goosebumps, or closed his eyes he’s ready for a deeper kiss.
The kiss (2): look at his lips, lean in again, close your eyes, kissing him using your tongue. Play with his tongue, kiss the corner of his lips, bite the upper lip, bite the bottom of his lip, and kiss his lips. Mean while have your hands either on his lower back, or on his back neck, play with his hair, run your hands through his neck.
The kiss (3): there will be times will be for you two to have to breathe, so instead of cutting the kiss, you could simply start kissing his neck or he could do the same, giving the both of you the chance to breathe. Also if you felt the kiss is dry, you could lick his lips, and on the lips’ frame, this move is very hot, very intense and very moist which is one of the keys to a good kiss; moist.
(p.s. Many guys suck (bad) at kissing, and even so we still like them, in that case it's ok for you to take the lead and teach him, you could start with a sentence like: "ok, that was amazing, but now let your lips surrender to mine, let me lead, keep up if you can" that sentence have many cute phrases, it doesn't come on strong and won't erase his efforts. Also if he came on too strong, or you don't like the way he kisses, it's ok for you to take the lead, so for you to be comfortable and for him not knowing and still have a great kiss. Remember "it's ok to take the lead".
Kissing Survival Kit
2- Lips: keep your lips smooth and soft with scrubbing them. Put lip balm on your lips, using your tooth brush to scrub them to slough off dead skin. Rinse your brush and your lips after words. This way you keep your lips hydrated, soft and smooth. (Try avoiding using thick, and stick lip glosses when kissing. Try a light lip balm, using the tip of your finger to spread the balm with a tap-motion movement. Use a sheet of tissues to get rid of extra access of your balm, if you felt it’s too much).
1- Your neck: During a make-out session, there will be soft touches, especially at the neck area, when your hands go in the area to balance the pressure of the kiss. And a lot of us have an acne problem in that area, so keep your back of your neck and front clear with using tea tree oil on the spots and pimples, and use a toner or an acne solution toner you use on your face in that area to dry them out and get rid of them. Keep your neck smooth and freshly scented by a freshly-fruite scented moisturizer.
(p.s. if you felt you need to apply lip balm or pop a tic-tak, you could do that in a quick movement while your partner isn’t looking. Or you could do all that before you go out, or you could go to the bathroom before leaving. BTW it’s ok to ask him if he wants a tic-tak, but after you take one first, so you won’t make him conscious about his breath!)
4- Your breath: the main tool to a fresh breath. Brush your teeth, and scrub your tongue in the same brush. Keep your breath fresh, by drinking water all day and during dinner. Also keep a tic-tak in your pocket. Better yet we've found these Jolly Ranchers at local stores, which have 8 pieces of hard candy, 2 of each kind with fruit flavors. So you could pop 2 different pieces for the both of you. It will take your kiss to a more flavorish sweet surrender. More yummy and irresistible.
"DON'T WIPE YOUR MOUTH AFTER THE KISS! THAT JUST MAKES IT AWKWARD TO ME!
Kissing Do's and Don't's
These do's and don'ts are designed to help underscore the important points of good kissing. Of course, these aren't meant to be taken as law... just as guidelines to improve your kissing.
DO gently caress your partner's face.
Ace your kiss just like those top 4 on screen gay kisses including a lesbo smooch:
Gay Kiss Scene (1):
Another Gay Kiss in Torchwood's Season 2 3rd episode, To The Last Man, which was broadcast by BBC Two on BBC America. This time Captain Jack Harkness (John Barrowman) shares a passionate gay kiss with Ianto Jones (Gareth David-Lloyd).
Watch the kiss (here>)
Gay Kiss Scene (2):
It's a good clip for red-blooded lesbian females – the latest trend of Hollywood on-screen lesbian lip-locking sessions is really taking off.
One of the female stars to indulge in a tongue tiring session with another woman is Austin Powers’s babe Heather Graham.
The ex-girlfriend of Heath Ledger tangles herself in a lengthy and moany tongue tussle with sexy “Gray Matters” co-star Bridget Moynahan.
Watch Heather having her first lesbian kiss (here>)
Gay Kiss Scene (3):
Jake Gyllenhaal and Heath Ledger caused a stir with their gay cowboys' kiss in Brokeback Mountain.The customers of British online rental firm, Lovefilm.com, have voted Jake and Heath’s gay kiss in the movie the best screen kiss ever. We couldn't agree more. It has been the one movie kiss that has shaken us up the most. feeling happy to see the characters reunite with a kiss, sad that they had to do it in hiding, scared that Annis' wife would catch them in the act.
Check out their passionate kiss (here>)
Gay Kiss Scene (4):
We can't get enough of As the World Turns' Nuke, Jake Silbermann (Noah) and Van Hansis (Luke) offers a great synopsis of their tortured on-going soap romance, playing boyfriends. They were nominated for best daytime serial drama in the 19th Annual GLAAD Media Awards (June 2008).
Check out their passionate kisses (here>)