Don't say a SINGLE word!
By: A tryer!
So it’s official, it’s a lonely world out there! Hate that fact more than anything else, and hate it more that I’m this close to actually believe that I’ll die alone like a dog!
We could sit there, bounce back on our dusty sofas, and count a million reasons why we’re still single, and we also could single out 10 cent-worth excuses for not risking our “safe and sound” single life, convincing ourselves we’re just fine as wine. Well, in cases it could be a right decision being single, at least for the moment, or maybe in future cases. But what if, and right just when you reach that point where you start thinking about this solitary life of yours, and even mine before yours, and that question rings the bell right when you think it’s the church outside again! But no!!! It’s that damn question, again! “Why am I single again?”
Is it true that what we’re looking for is a physical commitment to the future stranger to-be? Am I done with this empty life of mine? And by empty, I don’t mean a worthless, aimless life, I mean…it’s just my hatred toward the fact of being single, and not having a guy to be smitten with at the end of the day, and by all means, not having any! So is it my fault? Is it fait playing the dice again? Do I have a paper stuck on my back that says “piss off, I’m straight!”? Well to be honest being single is either a choice you make for yourself, or fait has already made it for you, leaving you with the hard work, just at the time you’re addicted to love, at least the idea of it. The idea that forms the picture of it, the holding hands, the chic-flick romantic crappy movies, it’s an non ending list that provokes your senses knowing what you're truly trying to curve off!
It’s usually the nightmare of dating someone; the pressure you put yourself under, to measure up to the best version of yourself; smart but not too smart, make-up but not so much perfume, out going but not easy…it’s silly rules, silly game to allure the prayed for prey. It’s the game you’re tiered to play again. Afraid of losing. The question is, are you positioning this un-met-matched person as an opponent? Is this a game of who got who? Or is it the desperate need to be with someone after watching a romantic movie?
You see, it’s just a simple recipe! It all depends on the right amount of your emotional need, a hint of the right qualifications to fill up the gaps you’re short on, the right guy, and a pot, aka; a loving atmosphere!
Studying what you need from the other person is just the absolute math you need to figure for a successful BF hunt. You don’t want the wrong guy ending on your plate and you want to save yourself a mile ahead of headaches dogging wrong decisions you already took. Yet, it’s not about what you did, it’s about what you can do now. Complete yourself first. Your belief on whether the future guy will help you over come some insecurities of yours or not, will only give “people” or others the control over your life in it’s emotional baguette. So focus on the focal point of your positive areas, grow them and out grow them more.
Love yourself. Many people believe that you need people to like you or love you so for you to love yourself. But that just ain’t the story here, or the deal you want to score. While it’s the other way round; loving yourself will only make people see the whole YOU more, love you more, because you’re showing what you love about yourself, making people falling for those points you’re unconsciously showing.
Find the right material in “prince charming”. It’s the old same story, the await of the prince charming, or dream guy. Building such a –(and sorry to say it…break it)- false image of this guy in your head will only make it harder for you too see your many other options. Those perfectionist standards that God knows no human could complete, will also limit the great other guys/girls for you to meet. Which will also make it even harder for you to see the right and real standards they possess. Find the right qualities that last over time, right material you could build future or a commitment relationship based on. The right balanced substances, a hint of intelligence, a hint of sensitivity, a hint of jealousy, a hint of beauty and hint of care...
Attract the right people! You see, you attract what you want, better yet, what you need. And maybe right now you’re saying, 'then why I’m ending up doing the shameless same old habits YOU KNOW WHAT?'. Most probably you’re attracting the wrong guy. It’s all simple chemistry. You must seek what you really need, not what you really like. Don’t limit options and expand more qualities in the good guys/girls you meet, and for that you’ll end up getting what you really attracted; which is the right fit.
Still can’t deny that many of you out there including me, base everything on looks, discarding all the other bad-good qualities. Tip: Don’t base your picks over shallow and materialistic plus-points, it won’t last, and it’ll leave you with nothing.
This world is getting harsher than press on Kate Moss! You need to surround yourself with the right people, the confidence you’re made to wear, the great people you’re ought to meet and everything else before, after and in between, cause sometimes it may feel like you’ve been waiting forever while you’re what 21? Or 30 something? You just need to believe on what you can do in life other than bashing your ambition by obsessing on finding “The One”, cause he’ll come whether the minute you finish reading this article, 2 days after, maybe in next month…he’ll still going to come, but he/she will come faster the minute you drop the search, and focus on yourself! It’s true!
Some how, they're single too!
Part of being in Hollywood, is being under the public eye constantly. And with such an advanced media crusing all around the world. Privacy is pretty much doomed when it comes to known people and celebs all around the world. And basically, without any basic lines, and rules to obey, it's far-by-gone over bored. And the with integrity-less of today’s press and media, the personal life isn’t exactly off the list. So as you know, the dating scene in Hollywood, left 3 most adorable starlets, lonely and sagging on potato chips, just like you and me. Here are Jennifer Aniston and her failed relationship with John mayer. Cameron Diaz and her single life after Justin. Never to forget the chain of the failed relationship for Jessica Simpson who also have been dumped by well-know player John Mayor. So, there you go, never alone. You never were, even known people like them are facing what you're face. But still, our love for them never changes, and certainly it doesn’t have to do with or without them being single.