The Right Place
The Right Time!
by: Abdulla A.K.
Hold on, going on a date could be tricky, it’s much complicated than a job interview, adding up, first impressions do count, you need to be a glib at this, fast. In Amman, the language of “being gay” means, speedy dates, and how far can you go, and may I say “ewwwww!” you don’t need to pull up with this anymore, nor off your shirt! Changing the way “gay-date” could be your project of a complete twist in Amman’s gay lifestyle. Making your own approachable rules and killing all the bad stereo typical habits that been running by the low-minded people. Start now…
-The Net Set
If you’ve been chatting with a guy over the net, and he/she or you want to meet, make sure you are ready first for such a move, and if you decide you are, agree to meet in a public place like the mall, or starbux. Make sure to tell a friend where you are. Now, in a first meeting a lot of people move way too fast for physical actions such as kissing or going way further than kissing. Also don’t rush telling or doing anything, because in a lot of cases, they may not call back, so save yourself embarrassment of having a bad rep, same thing for revealing secrets, don’t open up your own private life out to the person, you never know if it’ll work out, so!
-Riding Along with Boys
A lot of guys on the internet offer to meet up in cars, the mistake is, when you approve on a place for him to pick you up from, you're no different lets say like the girls or guys we know (does pretty woman ring a bell?) And the worst is for you to tell him where you live so "he" could come and pick you up. Acts like that gives him the impression you’re easy, a pick-up and other than that, you're putting your life to the "outness" you may not want and your family in danger! You never know who you're dealing with, the whole thing may have a bad reflex like getting outed to your so-closed-minded family; (which already happened to many cases). And also would give him the permission to make moves on you. So first, never tell guys you don’t know about your place, and don’t agree on meeting in their cars, agree to meet in a café’ or a public place like I said. And make sure to set rules by telling him, you’re into friendship, dating and talking, and you don’t expect anything from your meeting other than a friendly talk.
Ok so you’re chatting with a really cute guy, and you just like his face and the way he talks…OVER THE CHAT, and suddenly he throws lines like “are you horny right now?” and “what’s your role?” well, these are a no no dates, meeting you for them is all about sex, and how far you’ll go for them. So be careful of such signs. Also guys with no pics on the display box, or they never showed you there pic, these are the players, now, I know a really good guy, who showed me his face more than once, but removed his photo from the display because he’s chatting with new guys, and we all know a display pic that appears to you, appears to everyone on your chat list. Well, that's acceptable since he's being honest yet careful. When he shows you his pic for you only that means he's comfortable enough with you.
-My.Kali.mag’s Alert. “The Traps”
Some guys are used to the routine of meeting in a public place. They know how to handle you and the types like us by tricking them, you’ll find out, when you see the conversation is really going well, and he’s talking and sharing, and then he’ll say “up for a drive? Or do you want to go for a drive?” that’s the trick, were he wants to allure you to the car (not all guys the same, and by saying that i'm not saying it's all a trick, just keep it safe by not going to his car at the first meeting). Also some times they bring group of friends, you may feel he’s here to make fun of you, or to beat you up, and in that case you can pick up a café’ with 2 floors (like most starbux branches) and stay by the window to check up if he came alone or with a bunch of friends…so watch out, it happened before.