Between the lies and the truth
on gay affairs and cheatings.
By Max Jamie
In a dark invisible room they meet. In a place where the sun never shines. Where the walls have no eyes nor ears. They enjoy each other… They kiss and make love in a hidden manner, so neither of their 'Others' would smell a different scent..
Affairs. It can hold several meanings, it can mean sensless sex, or it can be falling in love again, while you had already given your heart to someone else. Someone who you had promised to cherich and love till the end of time. Only that this 'end of time' came early.
So there she comes. A woman who would steal your heart, break the promises and cut the chains. She's glamourous. There's something about her, that your current partener failed to possess, and you had fallen into her head first.
There's a different taste to an affair. The rush, the sneaking, and the lying around that makes you feel superior, and makes you arrogant and confident.
It all goes right as planned, your GF has no clue, you're having nonstop sex, and SUDDENLY, you're IN love with your affair, or the other way around, even better, you're both IN love!!
You're so attached to her, your mind and heart are torn in two. You call your GF, hang up and call your affair. You meet your GF, kiss her, then next morning you're with your affair.
You start thinking, "What if I had met my affair before? Is she the one? Who do I want?" And BAM! You're lost in a circle of confusion..
Just when you think its all ok, regret finds its way in. You start to consider your partner's feeling while you lie right through your teeth; "what if she finds out? Would she leave me? How hurt would she be?"
Think of the consequences. If your partner is to find out you've been screwing around, they'll leave. No second thought. No regret. For no one would accept being second best or being lied to.
When you're dating someone, you've given them a promise of loyality and monogomy. If you want to see other people, discuss an open relationship, let your partner know that you have a tendency to cheat before you do it!
Think of it this way, would you like your partner to cheat on you? How would it feel to catch them holding hands with one another?
I know how tempting an affair could be. And I know that having two people in your life who adore you greatly is heaven, but their's a lot to risk here. Are you willing to risk losing your partner in exchange for another?
Talk. Talk. Talk! Conversations can solve almost everything. If you like someone tell your partner. Its normal to like others as long as you don't act upon it while you’re in a relationship. It might be a clue that something is missing in your relationship. Conversation could help you figure things out and solve them. Maybe you can mend it before you cheat and regret doing it. If you just feel and know for certain that your partner isn't right for you, leave in a good way, but don't cheat. This will even help you in dealing with fuure relationships.
If you left in a good manner it would reduce the pain and the bitterness. At least the tag "player" won't get stuck on you!!
Affairs are seducing, hott and thrilling. On the other hand, settling down, falling in love, having a monogomos relationship gives peace of mind and happiness. So, Its your call!!
Where could you find better examples about lifestyle problems than celebrities?! It’s not that we enjoy there misery, but we learn from there mistakes. (Left); starting with the recent rumor and big D word of Madonna’s and Guy’s divorce. All started in July 2008, even earlier in April 2008 where they’ve been seen together watching a Yankees game. And the mid-night sneaks of A-Rod from Madonna’s house. (Down-left); back in October 2005, the split of Jude Law and Sienna Miller after a chains of infidelity from both J’s and S’s. Rumors has it that Jude Law cheated with his children’s nanny after finding out that Sienna Miller have been cheating on him with Daniel Craig. Making matters worse, Daniel Craig was one of Jude’s oldest pals which made Jude feels utterly betrayed.
(Right); back in 2005, there have been reports and rumors about Nick and Jessica splitting, even after denying their split. Nick was rumored to kiss a college student who he met at a football game. While Jessica is partying around. Rumors were even earlier in 2004 when Nick was spotted going out with strippers. But still, we love you Jess!