Like in many cases, friends get mixed up in many off-limited situations were it takes a cheap drink to cross the red line with or without a drink, and get there paws all over an off-limited guy or hitting on all the wrong people, causing to hurt the feelings of the closest people to their secret lives. That’s probably one of many immoral and impolite cheap act coming out of a close person you considered the best gal-like-pal. However there is many situations and lines the best friends should know about, learn about and from, knowing all the reasons, all the rules so they’ll avoid future drama, knowing what’s theirs and what’s not, what’s right and what’s wrong, and what’s the true meaning of the word “off-limit”
1-Your best friends' exes
Why? Exes where once your best friend’s boyfriend. Were they shared intimate details and inspirable memories. There relationship could’ve caused pain to both of them. They’re maybe hurt by each other. A heart break and a major love life change. So ex-boyfriends are off-limits to you. Because your best friend will be more than hurt to see you two hitting it off, reminding him of their memory and will translate your act to a back stab, and forgiving you will be complicated to him to figure out. And why would you hit on a guy who once made your best friend cry on your shoulder?
2- A guy your friend is crushing on.
Why? So let’s say your best friend was struck dumb, really dumb by a really cute guy he’s crushing on, and he was so clingy that he drove him away to your direction! And he liked you for your spunk, for your beautiful eyes and for all the sexy moves you do. You wouldn’t feel what your best friend is feeling. He’ll feel so insecure about himself and that you crossed your line from Jennifer the best friend to Angelina the cheap bitch, he’ll feel you’re always around to steal his left-overs, and that you did him, and he couldn’t. Your biggest mistake is that you chose a good friendship over a meaningless flirt or a quick one night stand. Putting your best friend in such an inner conflict isn’t what you’re supposed to do, because after all he saw him first!
3- Enemies of your best friend “without limits”
Why? This part is much of a “with boundaries” more than “with limits”. This kind of a relationship is like a cheat paper, you need to be careful using it. While being friends with two people who dislike each other is a relationship you want to give an extra control. Keeping all the secrets of both and not revealing it to the other is a must included in the friend’s pack. Being loyal to each off course, not exchanging talks or gossip about the other, nor leaving any of them for the sake of one’s request of hating them. Assure them it won’t affect your friendship.
4- Your friend himself.
Why? Ok, for the straight world, it’s hard to explain to them, how gay guys could have other guys as friends only! Since all they know about is, since we’re both gays why won’t be attracted to each other. Also, in the gay world, there are limits, boundaries and red lines as well. That’s why categorizing the people in your life is a must, because friends can’t be sex partners or what so ever. Limits should be drawn in all your relationships with people, knowing there place in your life.
5- Dirty dancing with your best friend's BF
Why? Well, having fun with your best friend’s BF is great, it even makes a good impression, but dirty dancing with them makes the “slut, bitch, whore” written all over you! Keep your distance when it comes to such intimate moves. However dancing with your friends, in a group and just fooling around is ok, but don’t over cross the line. Just know what’s wrong and what’s ok, and you’ll be fine.
6- Making your best friend a subject of a conversation
Why? So lets say you and a bunch of people on a table and they brought up the headlines of your best friend’s life’s drama-trauma. And by discussing his private life or his life in general makes it actually the subject of conversation, putting your friend out there behind his back, judging his life, and discussing it out in the public, God if there’s a name for it?! So always close the subject politely, by saying declining or saying you won’t go through this cause he’s your friend too, and turn to another subject.
7-Revenging from your Ex!
Why? It’s ok to be mad at him, it’s ok that you feel like you want to rip that weasel’s head right off, and it’s ok to throw eggs on his car, but taking it all on him by revenge, giving yourself the permission to sleep around for a jealousy purposes, or hooking up with other people just for the sake of feeling better is all off limits. For you before him! You’ll lose self respect after you’ve waken up to your actions you’ve been driven on doing. So keep a sane conscious on your mind while monitoring your actions and your reactions on the issue or any other issue. But hooking up with your ex’s best friends or what so ever won’t help you with anything but going for a worse state of self-worth.
8- Dumping your friend for another hangout.
Why? It's about "Honesty"! Yea I hate that too as well! But you know is an essential survival tool for every relationship, so telling your friend whether you hang out today or not, by simply telling them you made other plans, not lie about it and decline, just as simple. Call later and make up for it by making other plans for the next coming days. But never blow off a friend.
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[Editor’s Note]: BTW, this article and pointers aren’t a holy word! This is for you and your conscious to deal with, helping you realizing what’s right and what’s wrong, or at the very least, what’s good for your friendship and what it takes to be the best of sticking to your lines. We’re not telling you your obligations or what you’re suppose to do, we’re letting you know how your friend might feel, so there is no rule book, it’s all up to you!!!