When The Net Is In
The Middle!
Is She The One?
By YasLam
The high technology that the world is experiencing now made us closer than one year ago. Many sites were created for dating or just simple chatting and get to know each other through the small screen in front of us and by the keyboard under our hands. And for the purpose of finding Ms. Right some girls decides to login online and join such groups or chat rooms, and this act always happening due to the lack of meeting places or the get together clubs, especially in the Middle East!
Online we are meeting many girls like us from different countries in search of Ms. Right too, but how you will know that she is the one you’re searching for? You cannot determine from the first “Hi” that she is the one, it needs more than “How are you” even, it needs time and patience. Some girls are rushing things and immediately declare that they are in love while they have just finished their first time chatting together, and it’s almost impossible to fall in love with someone who wrote some lines on your screen, that is why it needs time to know if she is “the one”.
Le t us say that both of you are in two different countries, you can’t meet or even talk for longtime and you are still in the first stage of knowing each other. Within the first three or four times chatting you must avoid giving personal information about you like, your exact address or the jobs of your parents or family members’ names, just talk about yourselves, your study, your work, favorite music, books or movies, try to make a general information session about both of you
Because in the internet world and especially in the chatting rooms there are some hunters that they will not bother to hurt or abuse you so do not be another victim to them.
On the contrary there are some really kind hearts that are looking for love just like you. You must request also to use webcam and Microphone (headset) while talking or at least a photo, because many people are using the "Change voice" technology, and a fake perfect-model picture to deceive the part they are chatting with.
After talking about your favorites in life, and finding many things in common between both of you, then it’s the time you can start to say “I like this girl” (just likeness not love yet), then you can move on to the next stage on knowing each other even more.
In the second stage you start to talk about your dreams and how do you want your future partner to be, and listen to her thoughts also. The second stage is very important because you will know from it if the girl talking to you can handle a commitment or not. As some in many girls does not care about any commitment as long as you are having a good time together, at that point you need to stop thinking about her as “ the one” especially if you are looking for someone who is faithful to you. Just end the talking there before it is too late, and you can be good friends as long as you are still in the “I like her” stage, because if you will insist in convincing her to have a some kind of a commitment with you, while she doesn’t; then the whole thing will end up by hurting yourself. If you find out that she can handle a commitment so do not hesitate and move to stage three which is “She might be the one “.
It is the stage of the things that you noticed while talking with her, but you have skipped them intentionally and said “will talk about this later”. Now it is the time for “the later stuff” because sometimes when we are overwhelmed by something we usually forget about its disadvantages. In this stage you can ask her about some of her habits that you do not like; if she is willing to give them up for the person that she loves or consider, like if she smokes, drinks, gambles…etc.
As in this stage you are clearing everything before you make the big decision. Is she willing to give up these habits for you? Or are you willing to consider them? Since everybody has their own pros and cons, and nobody is perfect after all.
These three stages are all under the “ask your mind” part and if your mind cleared the way you find comfortable, then pass her to your heart and say yes “she is the one”. Do not be deceived by the nice words, always ask your mind first then your heart if what is going on between you and her is really what you need. Your mind will act like your personal alarm it will always buzz when the harm is near and even if your heart is rejecting the report of your mind, do not neglect the message of your mind, always keep it in front of you because it might be your savior one day.
The high technology that the world is experiencing now made us closer than one year ago. Many sites were created for dating or just simple chatting and get to know each other through the small screen in front of us and by the keyboard under our hands. And for the purpose of finding Ms. Right some girls decides to login online and join such groups or chat rooms, and this act always happening due to the lack of meeting places or the get together clubs, especially in the Middle East!
Online we are meeting many girls like us from different countries in search of Ms. Right too, but how you will know that she is the one you’re searching for? You cannot determine from the first “Hi” that she is the one, it needs more than “How are you” even, it needs time and patience. Some girls are rushing things and immediately declare that they are in love while they have just finished their first time chatting together, and it’s almost impossible to fall in love with someone who wrote some lines on your screen, that is why it needs time to know if she is “the one”.
Le t us say that both of you are in two different countries, you can’t meet or even talk for longtime and you are still in the first stage of knowing each other. Within the first three or four times chatting you must avoid giving personal information about you like, your exact address or the jobs of your parents or family members’ names, just talk about yourselves, your study, your work, favorite music, books or movies, try to make a general information session about both of you
Because in the internet world and especially in the chatting rooms there are some hunters that they will not bother to hurt or abuse you so do not be another victim to them.
On the contrary there are some really kind hearts that are looking for love just like you. You must request also to use webcam and Microphone (headset) while talking or at least a photo, because many people are using the "Change voice" technology, and a fake perfect-model picture to deceive the part they are chatting with.
After talking about your favorites in life, and finding many things in common between both of you, then it’s the time you can start to say “I like this girl” (just likeness not love yet), then you can move on to the next stage on knowing each other even more.
In the second stage you start to talk about your dreams and how do you want your future partner to be, and listen to her thoughts also. The second stage is very important because you will know from it if the girl talking to you can handle a commitment or not. As some in many girls does not care about any commitment as long as you are having a good time together, at that point you need to stop thinking about her as “ the one” especially if you are looking for someone who is faithful to you. Just end the talking there before it is too late, and you can be good friends as long as you are still in the “I like her” stage, because if you will insist in convincing her to have a some kind of a commitment with you, while she doesn’t; then the whole thing will end up by hurting yourself. If you find out that she can handle a commitment so do not hesitate and move to stage three which is “She might be the one “.
It is the stage of the things that you noticed while talking with her, but you have skipped them intentionally and said “will talk about this later”. Now it is the time for “the later stuff” because sometimes when we are overwhelmed by something we usually forget about its disadvantages. In this stage you can ask her about some of her habits that you do not like; if she is willing to give them up for the person that she loves or consider, like if she smokes, drinks, gambles…etc.
As in this stage you are clearing everything before you make the big decision. Is she willing to give up these habits for you? Or are you willing to consider them? Since everybody has their own pros and cons, and nobody is perfect after all.
These three stages are all under the “ask your mind” part and if your mind cleared the way you find comfortable, then pass her to your heart and say yes “she is the one”. Do not be deceived by the nice words, always ask your mind first then your heart if what is going on between you and her is really what you need. Your mind will act like your personal alarm it will always buzz when the harm is near and even if your heart is rejecting the report of your mind, do not neglect the message of your mind, always keep it in front of you because it might be your savior one day.