For all of you who fell out of love in the past’s nest, I’m sure you know what I mean when I say: been there and back. “Been there and back” is a term that means I was single at some point and now I’m single again. Well honey, I’ve been there and back again and again. I started writing this article as a way of venting; I’m not good at talking my problems away to others. So, now this is an article, maybe you will learn from my mistakes, since its human nature not to learn from our own mistakes but by the mistakes of others.
Its quiet funny how there is no force stronger than love. It can give you the greatest warmth that can conquer the freeze of winter in New York, yet it can be the cold that freezes your very blood in fires of hell. No force, not even magic itself, can affect the outcomes of love. It can give you a disease even when you’re young, it can also add years to your life even if you have the vilest of cancers. No matter how hard you try to control the strength and length of the love you feel, it simply cannot be done. All of this, even though it’s true, isn’t very productive information and I like to write about productive matters, so.
I never experienced fights in my relationships, which was the first thing that most people think causes breakups. Sex life was quiet good too, so if that wasn’t the glitch what was? I had no idea, but my partner(s) said that it was moving too fast, which was BS because it was always in their hand. The other excuse was that they weren’t ready for a committed relationship.
Now I don’t know about you, but I picked up a few hints from my breakups. You see, we claim to be in a loving relationship with a partner. While - as explained above – I can’t begin to explain or teach about love because we all experience it in different ways. However, a relationship is something I can explain, so here goes.
When I think about a relationship, I’m also thinking partnership. A partnership is when two people share things 50/50. The control is held in both of their hands, love is shown equally by both of them, and they both give a little and take a little. I want you to think about this for a while if you are in a relationship. Do you do things 50/50 or is it like what Jill from Home Improvement when she says: “its 70/30”. And on another note, many of us settle for imbalanced relationships and we dread telling the other person fearing they might choose to leave us should we ever confront them. Relationships are supposedly based on truth and honesty, and if you can’t share how you’re feeling towards the other guy, what kind of truth and honest are you basing your loving commitment on.
This must be the most aggressive article I ever wrote, but believe me I have good intentions. Guys, I want you to think about your relationships (current or future ones). If we understand that our truth and honesty are the bases of a healthy relationship, and that fear shouldn’t even be in any form in a healthy relationship, then we won’t have to suffer the idiotic breakups that cause so much pain and misery. I still shiver whenever I think of going to Karaoke night with my friends, and my tummy still starts to hurt whenever I hear the flute. All of these are emotions I would love to live without, but as they are stuck because they are remainders of the relationships I’ve been through where the breakups were completely done for stupid reasons.
Allow me to quote my latest favorite movie; Shelter. “-we don’t own someone forever -so why bother? -because it’s worth it”. So be smart you guys and make everyday count, don’t let fear steal away your faith and trust. Be clear about your intentions; be true to yourselves and your partners, because it’s worth it.