"How do I get over that guy?"
By: Quillan Windtalker
So you just got dumped by what appeared to you as an amazing catch. It’s been three weeks and you still can’t get him out of your head. So what do you do now…?
Well my friends, after having gained some knowledge from my past experiences in breakups (they weren’t that many) I wrote down a set of steps to help you move on with your life and actually get over him.
Remember, you’re not trying to forget the guy existed, because face the facts, if he’s still stuck in your head till now he really must have meant something to you..
STEP 1: Continue living… after the appropriate time of grieving has passed, which I do hope won’t be more than a couple of weeks. Return to everyday life by doing the things you used to do normally. Go to all the same places, talk to the same people. Simply live.
STEP 2: Create an enhanced; better, “You”. Pick up something new to do. A new hobby, a new hang out place. Take a few self help classes like a yoga or tai chi class, maybe even start a dance class. Learn more about cooking, diving, climbing mountains. Simply enhance who you are. You’re not doing this to say you’re better than him; you’re doing it because you want to move on and grow to a better state of mind and certainly becoming a better person.
STEP 3: Welcome to single life, again! Put on your flirting shoes, and get ready to hit the club, we’re going dancing tonight. Keeping up a healthy social night life is very, very important. It helps you spend time with friends and making new friends at the same time. Who knows...? You might bump into someone that strikes your fantasy.
STEP 4: Remember who you are. This is the most important of all. Remember that you are who you are, because you are who you are, not because of whom you’re dating. While I agree that finding a partner makes you feel whole and good, but remember that these people aren’t the reason of your happiness. You are the reason for your happiness. Them being with you, or not only ads to the greatness that is truly YOU. So remember who you are and how great you really are, and the fact that you don’t need to depend on a guy to make you happy.
I speak (or in this case write) from experiences. These steps helped me move on with my life, become a better person, raise my heights on what I truly want from this world. It also helped me find a happier, more independent, more secure ME, and it helped me with my future relationships.