Relatioship SOS Tool Box
Repairing The Foundation
of What Matters
So this is like one of these "cosmo" talks, except it's a gay one! Discussing such issue isn't complicated as a lot of you think. You may have mixed your issues together from your sexuality acceptance to your relationship compromises, so it isn't healthy, and it isn't fair for you and neither to your partner, and coming to terms, a healthy relationship in gay world isn't impossible, and isn't a lie as you hear or witness, and it never is, and those terms comes also in hetro world since the concept of a healthy relationship is the same, and never different.
When it comes to scaling a relationship it get based on the many good standards any stable relationship is based on and a healthy relationship between two boys' means both of the partners are satisfied in being together, including happiness and all the punctuations in humans, and they're eight. Eight habits are included in a healthy gay relationship. We’re going to mention them in a row and we'll discuss each one and why using these tools: communicating, respect, understanding, trust, listening, sex, your own space, and jealousy. These are the (S.O.S for Love) kit.
Starting with Tool number One: communication: it's the most important tool that must be used in a relationship, to conceal the connection by giving and receiving, talking…talking through a lot of issues, issues that may have stuck before and now it's time to talk it through before any complications occur up and build upon each other which is helpful to talk things through during your relationship together. We're not asking you to read minds, we're asking you to keep the communication door open, because once it closes, so is your relationship, if you don't find this with your partner, you will start looking for it in some one else.
Tool number Two: respect: respecting each other for who you are and what you are, respecting each others decisions and never underestimate them, , always apologize for any thing you may have done that might have hurt him. Point out the wrong turf you’ve took and show your sorrow with your words. Criticizing things in each other will kill the respect rope between you two, and you will both be under constant fights, tense-charged atmosphere and eventually you won't share things together as much as you use to.
Tool number Three: understanding: there will be times and places where you need to use this tool, you need to understand each others’ situations, do not pressure it, it'll make your relationship even more complicated. Knowing each others needs will certainly make your relationship grows stronger and gives you chances to connect allot.
Tool number Four: trust: it doesn't have to be the blind one that movies present, that's wrong to just let go, but to trust him in decisions and knowing that he'll always be there when you need him, to trust his words, his time, his promises. Lying will make Things worse, complicated and it might kill the trust between you two. However, coming forward with mistakes will show more heart, more commitment, even if it's hard to tell, or hard for your partner to adjust, giving him the time to think through, never pressure, and respect whatever he might come up with, and trust on what you'll both come up with.
Tool number Five: listening: there's a difference between hearing and listening, listening deeply and understanding what you're hearing is the one we want. Try not to over come things if some kind of a situation comes up, don't make it impossible for your partner to explain himself, there are always situations coming up, and it's much easier to listen and understand what you're partner have to say, it'll ease things up, and things won't clog up in your way.
Tool number Six: sex: who would've thought that Jane Fonda's youth secret is sex! It's a very powerful tool. Sex is a powerful factor in the connection process. It reunites people very strongly, and with love in the air, it's the ultimate satisfaction. When you get to be in a strong relationship, you won't be shy or more uptight of having a sex talk with your partner on what you like and what you don't, expecting the same from him as well. From fantasies to possessions, being sexually satisfied is one of your rights to one another. You both can generate a healthy relationship, endless orgasms, and you complete satisfaction levels. It's a very normal, healthy tool in any relationship not just the gay one.
Tool number Seven: your own space: a healthy relationship requires (you time) without your lover being around, you need it away from him so you can appreciate him, miss him, and realize how much he means to you. You need time away with friends, you simply can't do everything together, or you'll get bored from each other. It's ok to have your own space, it's healthy for both of you. He should have his own space as much as you do. Time away with friends on a night out, a pedicure session, or any art class will do just fine.
Tool number Eight: jealousy: as weird as it seems, jealousy is one of the things a healthy relationship desperately needs! Each one of you like to feel that the other cares about him so much that he gets a discomfort if he felt his partner is under other person's eyes. He feels under some kind of a competition to keep up to keep you. To care about you and the fear of losing you, jealousy provides strong care, bond, and protective attitude. It is very normal to feel it to one another, knowing that it reunite you even more.
Any relationship is worth saving with this (S.O.S for Love) kit, these eight tools smoothly blend together in it's own way, every tool has a connection or a tale to the other ending making a chain of it's own, knowing not to over do any of these things, always take a healthy doze, pouring it into your relationship. Remembering love is the essence of this blend, and a healthy relationship do not come in a fancy gold dish,you're the one who should make it happen, and getting down to it, a relationship is work.