WHERE DO BROKEN HEARTS
Ok this isn't one of Whitney Huston's songs, this real life issue happens when we get the break-up blues, and it's not easy us, we know that, and we keep asking ourselves, "Am I gona have a boyfriend again? What's wrong with me?", and we convince ourselves with un-true stuff, and all of a sudden, we get edgy, sarcastic to stupid moments, and you go "hey! I'm laughing again!", so what is it? What just happened? What happened is you're about to discover the journey of a broken heart, and if somebody loves you, won't they always love you?!
You are fragile from the break up, you might feel alone, angry, and you want to cry all day long, that is ok, you have the right to feel that way, to express your self, as long as you know, it's only a phase and it's not the end of the world, you get in depression, mood swings, and you can get affected physically by sleeplessness and over eating or not eating at all, you feel insecure in that stage and you feel weak.
You get into the thinking process, you get deep into details and you get even more emotional, you start recalling stuff, blaming your self, and you can't stop believing that it was all your fault, that you were the reason, you keep beating your self up with blame, putting more pressure on this. In that phase, you tend to complicate things up, but just so you know, it's only a phase, and it's his loss, it was never your fault.
Well they say, "Time heals everything" that is one true fact! You get into the distraction phase, you look for distractions to help you heal things up, it's a very natural thing to do, and you get into a project that ends perfectly flawless since it was the only thing you're focusing on right now, you build up a stronger self-esteem, and slowly you're letting things go. You're on the break from everything, putting things aside, focusing on something else.
Through all that, now it's the time to think things through, you get to your senses, "it wasn't my fault, it never was" you build the things you thought you destroyed. This is the "YOU" phase, it's all about you, you get rid of the bad feelings, the toxic energy and you slowly you let your guards down, you start to feel more mature, and you just believe it was never your fault , things changed, and better show now than later, right?!
Finally, "the getting over you" stage! You let things go, all the bad memories, growing stronger to face that bad situation, ready to trust again, to put yourself out there again, and the place you're at took you allot of character, strength to reach, you're stronger than you thought you were. That guy is out of your life now and foremost, you focus on yourself more, friends helped you and will help you all the way, and now, you're over him, over it
My.Kali.'s FYI: for every person different ways of dealing with his healing process, knowing it's only the same phases in different themes, and down the road, the picture of the guy in your head, is out there, and you're lucky to deal with it now, than later. Never blame yourself for who you are, you are who we need, you are who you are, and keep being that way, cause you're who we need.