on sexual desire...
By: M.J. Rahahleh
Each and every person is different than the other, in everything possible; interests, taste in food and so on, but we all share the urge (to some extent) for the same thing, and this thing is sexual desires. Whether we crave for guys, girls, or both at the same time, sexual desires are pretty much like the invisible clause on each and everyone’s birth certificate, but when we grow up, we engage into activities that are more associated with issuing birth certificates. Although it’s a shared thing amongst us, but each one has their own definition of sexual desires, all quirky and personalized, but at heart, we share the urge to kiss and hold someone, a special one.
Sex is the most thrilling experience a person could ever have, and it’ll be even more exhilarating if it’s done with the right person at the right time, without rushing into anything. This amazing rush of adrenaline is praised by all, some mostly have sex for fun (or make it a career, at some point), the truth is God didn’t plant those urges in human nature so someone can just keep off crossing people of his ‘to do with’ list, sex is an expression of love, of the fact that you actually care for this person on a higher level than just exchanging body fluids with. Those feelings and needs, if not channeled in the right direction, can end up consuming the very existence of anyone, and can turn him into a person that lives to have sex, instead of having sex to fulfill an urge and live.
In a related subject, sex addiction, which is a known mental disease, can lead up to something more serious: Sexually transmitted diseases - STDs. Stuff like syphilis, gonorrhea, AIDS and so on. The most common way of catching an STD is random sex, worse yet, unprotected sex. But the worse consequence of excessive sex is stripping sex from its uniqueness which later on makes it a regular everyday activity with no meaning, as if it’s a piece of homework to be done and that’s it. Sexual desire is pretty much like a car pedal, you shouldn’t let go of it, neither step on it too hard.
Sexual desires may be complicated, but that doesn’t mean it’s chaotic. Sexual desires often are based on this envision of the person we want to be with, which all are referred to neural mechanisms planted deep down in our brains, this thing, which is undergoing studying from scientists formed a new form of medicine, sexology (who thought that this would even exist!), based on this ‘sexology’, sex simply starts with an arising desire enflamed with mutual looks, craving to touch, which then leads to sexual arousal, followed by sexual excitement, a desperate fumbling with buttons and related clothing fasteners alongside with funny noises, climax and eventually, a ‘resolution’. And those so called ‘sexologists’ have recently discovered an interesting fact, that men spend almost 73% of their time a day thinking about sex, while women spend 60% of their day thinking about it, although that women have an astonishing craving for sex, and they’d fantasize more about sex than men do.
Eventually, it all comes down to the very fact called ‘fetishes’, everyone has their own secret and hidden desires, and those fetishes are the stuff that make them enjoy this sexual experience to the ultimate, whether it’s leather, a certain kind of looks, or just that hot cable guy jacket!
P.S. Pictures are from www.ethansays.com, used to serve the purpose of the article.