Big Boys Don't Cry!
On growing up and maturity things like responsibility and independence comes along as a second wish, and yet you keep having day dreams about how great it’ll be when you move out, or just the idea of moving out. Having your own place, space and life, no parents around, dishes to wash by the end of the day, and bills to pay by the end of the month, just amazing. Selfishly, you want to stay linger, feeling stuck in your own place, you get the feeling of being trapped, and that you’re stuck in some one’s age, but after allot of recognition, such feelings get created by the person’s not completing what he/she planned, causing the feeling of being trapped, maybe trapped in the same age you faced the truth or issue. Like every body else we all plan for certain goals by some age, and when something occur up causing for you to stop, and not continue a wall gets build up, which makes the person unable to adjust to the air around him, and that idea takes the center of your main source of growing up. Even though in future cases, you manage to make the plan work, in some cases it doesn’t erase the feeling of lingering around, and it takes a while to adjust to your new you, new age and yet in many cases you get over the feeling and you move on with your life, that’s why we say, the age we have on our birth certificate isn’t the real one, we say the real age is the one your life and mind is all about, and it depends on the stage you’re going through, sometimes when I meet people and they say “how old are you?” and I say “which one do you want?”
In other cases you’re forced to grow up, and not living your own age, like if a father dies and you need to take big time responsibilities of the house and your family, it’s really not the best feeling that life could offer, but you’re just there. And in most ages when reaching certain age, the growing up stage starts showing, by being protective of your own privacy, and you just feel you have a more of an outer life away from your family, a place for you to stand on your feet, it’s a place where the sentence “Big boys don’t cry” occurs to your mind more often. It’s time to be a big boy, new year, new class, new stage and new feelings, work maybe, but its time for all of us to make the best of us, the best of what we are, it’s like what Deanna Seay said “I understand I am not perfect and life won’t always wait for me. I say (life is what I make it!) I dream of tomorrow, not of yesterday. I hope tomorrow creates a new foundation because I am young and making my own roads.”; >>> (words from the Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul Letters). Allot of us is scared from reaching that point, the unknown, or the guts to even grow up, and the pressure that comes with it. But you know once you reach there, you’ll notice the good change of it, your own mind, your own thoughts, the decisions that you make and it’s not scary as it might seem at first, it’s always a better stage with benefits, and taking responsibility of your own actions. Your life is something really great; it comes with this liberation feeling. So, big boys don’t cry, deal?!